Giving Back: The Pancoe Family | News | Friends Select School

 

 

 OptimizedImage,Optimized

Giving Back: The Pancoe Family

 

Craig Pancoe and Deborra Sines Pancoe P’95, ’01, ’05 have witnessed the transformative power of Friends Select School in many ways. Deborra’s personal journey with the school began in 1986, when she joined the faculty as an upper school librarian. During her 18 years of service to the school, she served as upper school dean, taught Quakerism and history, and coordinated upper school service learning and city outreach programs. She also developed deep, lasting connections with colleagues and students alike. 

The couple also have the perspective of parents of Friends Select students—Adrienne ​​Pancoe Cormier ’95, Alycia Pancoe Young ’01, and Stefan Pancoe ’05—and believe their children’s experiences at the school deeply influenced their transformative years. “Our children became more inquisitive and formed meaningful relationships with their teachers, which have had a lasting impact on their lives,” said Deborra. “The relationship between teachers and students at Friends Select is unique and to be treasured.” 

Craig and Deborra’s appreciation for Friends Select extends beyond professional and parental roles; they have made a significant commitment to the school’s future through planned giving. By designating Friends Select as a beneficiary of their retirement funds, they aim to ensure the school’s financial sustainability and long history of providing excellence in teaching and learning. “It is a comfort to me to have that legacy gift in place. It lets me know that no matter what happens, a portion of the funds that I’ve saved over my career will be designated for Friends Select,” Deborra said. “The school’s values of seeking the Light in every person, working for peace, seeking equity and justice, and fostering community are worth investing in.”

The Pancoe’s planned gift will contribute to the school’s endowment, supporting faculty salaries, and providing financial aid to students in need. Deborra shared, “Leaving a legacy gift is very simple to do, and the professionals at the financial services organization that manages our retirement fund assisted us.” The family’s story is a testament to the profound impact of a Friends Select education and the importance of giving back, and their legacy gift ensures that future generations of students will benefit from the same nurturing environment cherished by their family. 

By contributing to the school through planned giving, supporters can ensure that Friends Select’s legacy continues for generations to come. 

For information on how to support the school through your estate plans, contact Christine Jefferson, chief development officer, at chrisj@friends-select.org or 215-561-5900 x3141.
 

Mon, 15 Dec 2025

Friends Select School Awarded a $1.7 Million Multi-Year Grant to Expand Educational Access

Friends Select School was recently named the recipient of a $1.7 million multi-year grant from The Children’s Education Initiative (TCEI), a San Diego-based nonprofit dedicated to improving the quality of education for socioeconomically disadvantaged children.

Tue, 09 Dec 2025

Math Department Chair Satoia Wright Publishes a Textbook

With her recently released algebra curriculum textbook, Friends Select’s math department chair and middle school math teacher, Satoia Wright, is sharing her passion and expertise to make math programming accessible.

Tue, 02 Dec 2025

Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s Legacy Before the Creation of a Federal Holiday

Thanks to the advocacy of students, Friends Select’s history of honoring Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. predates the creation of a federal holiday.

Mon, 01 Dec 2025

Joyful Learning

Friends Select School is creating a learning environment in which academic challenges and intellectual curiosity thrive alongside joy in learning. 

Wed, 19 Nov 2025

Above Board: It Feels Like Purpose

A deep sense of purpose—palpable both at the board level and among Friends Select’s students, families, faculty, and staff—drew me to join the board in the first place and then say “yes” when Ingrid Lakey ’89, P’27 was ready to pass the torch of clerkship. 

Tue, 07 Oct 2025

Alum Spotlight: Dr. Susan C. Taylor ’75

Documentary photographer Milton Lindsay ’07 traces his passion for photography back to Friends Select’s art classes, where the Quaker values embedded in the curriculum fostered his commitment to social justice.

Tue, 07 Oct 2025

Alum Spotlight: Bill Savitt ’80

Documentary photographer Milton Lindsay ’07 traces his passion for photography back to Friends Select’s art classes, where the Quaker values embedded in the curriculum fostered his commitment to social justice.

Tue, 30 Sep 2025

Alum Spotlight: Milton Lindsay ’07

Documentary photographer Milton Lindsay ’07 traces his passion for photography back to Friends Select’s art classes, where the Quaker values embedded in the curriculum fostered his commitment to social justice.

Fri, 02 May 2025

Going For Gold: Andrea Kremer ’76, Traci Green ’96, and Maia Weintraub ’21

Friends Select School is proud to celebrate the extraordinary achievements of our alumni, who excel in diverse fields while embodying the values instilled in them during their time at the school. Three remarkable Friends Select alumnae—Andrea Kremer ’76, Traci Green ’96, and Maia Weintraub ’21—exemplify this tradition. 

Fri, 02 May 2025

Michael Gary Speaks: Spring 2025

As I reflect on the vibrant and dynamic community at Friends Select School, I am filled with a profound sense of awe.

 

Where Next?